How do step-families handle the difficulty of blending traditions at the holidays?? 

Question:  We are both in our second marriage and the issue of who should discipline the children keeps coming up? How can we keep our stepchildren from becoming a source of division in our marriage?

One of the common unforeseen consequences of a second marriage is the difficulties that occur when each mate brings a child or children with them from their first marriage. It’s quite common for tensions and disagreements in a blended family to erupt over who should discipline whom, and how much discipline is called for.

Since the Scriptures instruct us to discipline our children, a contract is a great way to help children of all ages learn limits.  Seven Essential Features of an Effective Family Contract.